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Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-1-2007

Trust.... my question is ... after years of being lied to.. not by just one person.. by many.. how do you ever begin to trust again?

How do you let yourself believe in anything or anyone?

How do you let go of that fear?

How do you let go of the hurt the lies have caused?

How do you know who you can and can't really trust?

Having trust is having security.. my heart cries out for it .. More than anything else in my life, I believe I need that.. I need to trust .. I need to feel secure and safe.. I need to know I'm not going to be let down and hurt again.. how tho? How do I do that?
What do I need? What do I want?
Was reading some funnies earlier today about women and their ideas of the perfect mate... got me thinking about what I want and need in a partner....

Prepare yourselves because this might get long winded....lol...

I desire a man who is strong yet gentle.... you know that will open the jars for you and help with the heavy lifting every time you want to change the living room around.. and yet gentle to hold you not only in those times of need.. but to hold you just to be near you .. ..

I desire a man strong in his faith and spirituality... a man that will fly with me to the moon and back .... a man to help me maintain values and standards in the children... a man who stands up for what he believes in and does not ever waiver... a man that will always remain at my side... always there with his strong shoulders to support me when needed and even when not so needed...

I desire a man willing to give his 100% and then some when it comes to us and our family... A man who enjoys being together in a family .. a man who truly loves the kids and participates in their up-bringing .... a real Dad... who makes sure to attend every play and school function.. a Dad that will be there to protect his girls from the teenage boys that come over with the naughty thoughts in mind .. who makes sure to put the fear of God into the young monsters before they leave with his daughters... A Dad to console his girls after they have had their heart broken yet again... a Dad!

I desire a man to build dreams with .. and then to live them... a man not afraid to be himself..... and a man proud to be at my side as I am being myself... A man who does not desire to be something he's not just to show off or just to fit in with the crowd.. ...

I desire a man who likes candle lit baths for two... a man who enjoys a secluded picnic on a Saturday afternoon... a man who not only likes it when these type things are planned for him but also plans them for me... a man who when you leave little notes of love around for him to find .. leaves them for me too... a man who brings my fantasies to life .. a man who likes to laugh and play .. a man who likes to wrestle around in the floor and giggle under the covers til the weee hours in the morning ..

I desire a man I can share my life with ... my whole life.. my dreams, my hopes, my fears, my everything ... and a man who desires to do the same with me...

I desire a man who takes my breath away .. who loves to snuggle and make love for hours at a time... a man who kisses with his heart and soul... a man who loves with all that he is.. a man who's passion sets me on fire... a man who will sit with you through the 975th chic flick and not complain because his true desire is to just spend time with you no matter what you are doing... a man who gives freely his love ...
I desire a man who knows me inside and out .. a man who makes it his business to know my every like and dislike.. a man who's knows me so well that he not even need to ask ... a man who can read my mind and who smiles when he looks into my eyes and sees my soul.... for he loves what he sees.. a man who would stay up all night with the children when their sick or with me when I am... a man who knows when I need a hug and doesn't ask just gives it ... a man who thinks of his family and smiles from his heart.. a man who is honorable to a fault ..

If I were to find a man like this I would give to him freely my heart and soul and never ask for anything in return except for his love and affection...

For all I have ever wanted in life is to be loved truly and completely for who I am....

This man .. I know he is out there for I have seen him in my dreams.. I have felt his touch and melted in the darkness of the night to his kiss .. I have seen the light from his soul and I have snuggled in the essence of him... I have tasted his love on a realm not of this one.. but one surly that must have come from heaven.. for when he comes to me at night I feel his comfort and love.. his devotion and his strength.. his weakness and faults and still I love him so without ever knowing him in physical form.... to wake up from dream brings tears to my eyes and pain felt so deep within my heart that is so hard to bear.. why is it I have been allowed these dreams.. they cause so much pleasure so much happiness and then so much pain...

These dreams although wonderful they are also my nightmares .. as a friend recently so elegantly put it ... My Beautiful Nightmares...

I like that phrase .. as soon as I heard it .. not sure why but it hit a note with me.. now I know why.... not knowing then.. but realizing now that one phase actually describes perfectly my dreams.

The Bumps in the Road ЕЕЕЕ..
What do we do when we come upon those many bumps in the road of life.. ?
How do we handle ourselves.. the bump and our life at that point?
Do we go around that bump in the road only to more than likely meet up with it again further down the road .. only that same bump has gotten larger and harder to maneuver around?

Or do we go right over the bump full speed ahead Е taking the risk of bottoming out?
Or do we observe the bump.. measure it .. factor in the risk involved and the damage that may or may not occur when we go over that bump.. and/or do we plan a map around it ?
Each bump may take a different approach ..
Each bump has its own properties
But what's important is that from our journey, our path, our road Е is that we learn from each of these obstacles.. we grow and we become stronger and better in the end.

I myself have had many many bumps in this journey of life .. as each one approaches I dread it.. I see it coming .. and sometimes I panic.. I second guess what I'm seeing and I allow all these ideas in my head about what the bump will look like.. how large will it be.. how it will impact my life and oh so much moreЕ. I wear myself down before I even get to the bump in the roadЕ..lol..
Now on saying this .. I'm sure you all see a lesson here for me to learnЕ yeah .. exactly.. STOP over-thinking everything!!!!! LOL

OK OK I get it!

Now how? How do I stop this learned behavior?

Oh how I wish it was as easy as recognizing the issue.. my problem would now be solved.. but unfortunately this will be a long process that will most likely last the rest of my life..
Recognizing our problems, issues and troubles is the first step.. over coming them is an even harder step.. it takes a lot of energy, effort and thought on your part.. a daily acknowledgement of the issue and how to let go and or get past it.
Right now I'd like to close by just saying .. don't let the bumps in your road stop you from continuing the journey and enjoying life.. let those bumps be life lessons and take them for what they are ..

Random Madness by Raventalker 2-2-2007

so many thoughts pop in out of my head during the course of a day....
Why is it people do things knowingly to hurt others?
What possible good comes from doing things like that??
How can someone just go on living their little life, as if they are caring and thoughtful, when they have said or done something that they knew would hurt someone else??
I have never been able to figure people out like that... unless there is a very good reason behind telling someone something or doing something that you know will hurt others... what is the point in doing it .. you know unless it is to save another or to actually help in the end?

Another thing I wonder about is those who are quite often mean and nasty towards other.. even those they don't even know .. how can they go through life living each day with so much bitterness inside??
And how is it someone can hate another person who they have never even had conversation with??

Maybe it's just a fault of my own that I am always hoping and thinking people will not be these ways... maybe I am the one in the wrong .. maybe I shouldn't expect so much from others and maybe I shouldn't look at others in a positive light to start with.. maybe if I were to see each and every person as an enemy and think badly of them from the beginning .. maybe then I wouldn't end up hurt or disappointed... hmmmmmmm

What does the world have to gain by holding on to things like bitterness and hatred?
How can you sleep at night with all that locked up inside yourself? and How can you grow as a person?
It's no wonder so many of us put these walls up around ourselves.. with so many out there pretending to be friends.. pretending they care.. pretending they love you .. to just take the friendship and love you have given them and slap you in the face with it at a later date.. what do they really get from that??
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My own feelings about life .....
We all work for what? What is it we really want?
Well all I want in this world is to be happy .. to feel like I am a part of something nice .. and to feel like I have something to contribute to the world.. to feel loved and to feel useful and needed..
There is no need for material things.. they certainly haven't made me happy yet .. they come and go.. they are just things.. things that clutter our lives and make us lose sight of the simple pleasures life gives us each day .. like a smile.. a hug.. a nice conversation with friends.. laughter.. a good movie... all the memorable moments in life I feel get over looked because today everyone wants to compete with each other.. who has the biggest hard drive.. who drives the most expensive car and who is wearing the designer whatever... what about those things money can't buy... like the moment your child takes their first steps.. like the way the wind blows through your hair on a sunny day... like the smile you caused someone else to have simply by smiling back at them... When I'm really old and grey .. barely walking and sitting around thinking back on my life.. I hope it's filled with memories that will make me smile.. instead of those that cause the tears to flow.. How sad would that be.. to have lived a life of bitterness and regret.. anger and mistrust .. how much you will have missed ... sad indeed..

Others can remain as bitter as they want . they can be as hurtful as they wish.. but this is my life and I won't allow them the power to take my smiles away.. I refuse to grow bitter ... I refuse to hold on to the anger.. I refuse to throw my life away and clutter my world with the material things just to prove that I'm something I'm not.. Friends, Family and love are what I'll fill my life with.. smiles and giggles.. laughter and dancing in the rain.. who cares if others laugh or shake their heads.. who cares if they give me a dirty look because I'm having fun and they aren't!

So hate me all you want .. it doesn't matter because all I'll hold in my heart for you is love.. and hope that someday you will find that love too..

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-3-2007

Today

Well, today is today .. its not yesterday and its not tomorrow ..
So what I have to worry about is just today .. well actually why even worry about it..lol.. a friend once said to me that there are 2 things you should never worry about .. 1. the things you can't change and 2. the things you can

So for now I'll just think about today and not worry about yesterday or the day before or any of the days that came before.. and ..

I'll not worry about tomorrow or next week or even next year .. I'll take on today as it comes and see where it takes me..

My hopes are high.. my dreams are intact and I'm looking forward to it with my feet firmly planted on the ground..

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-5-2007

Today I want to talk about learning how to be true to ourselves. We all know this is the only way to truly be and yet why is it we fight so many inner battles trying to do what's right?

As a giver I am in constant conflict with doing what's right in my heart and what's best for me and not hurting others .. everything is not always crystal clear and yet it is.. if you just ask your heart and stay true to yourself and not allow fear to override what you already know then the picture becomes crystal clear .. and this is the conflict that goes on inside use.. we allow fear to interupt and we allow our need to not hurt others feelings and also a need to be wanted and loved by everyone.. or at least liked by everyone.. lol

So often we will sacrifice what we know is right for ourselves so that we can try our best to do right by another .. but in the end I bet you find that it just doesn't work out as planned and neither end up in the Happily Ever After .. something somewhere always fails when you are not true to self.

I say .. take some time and slow down .. nothing needs to be decided right here right now .. take some time to listen to self and understand your own needs and wants .. be true to self and you will not be guided wrong.
Words on Love by Raventalker 2-6-2007

Valentine's day is coming up next week and I just wanted to send out a gentle reminder that now of all times is the best time to remind those you love just how much they mean to you.

It doesn't take a whole lot of anything except thought and effort to make someone close to you feel special. Just be sure to make that effort for them. So many little ways of saying "I Love You".

Candle light anything is always a good choice.. maybe make up a small basket or bag of things that have special meaning or symbolism to you and the one you love.. flowers and chocolate are a given! Е a special night out or even at home.. or how about writing a song or poem for someone you love.. the effort is what means the most and making sure you don't just go out and grab a box of chocolates and a card at the last minute.. put thought into the actions and in your words.. make the day as special as you can and it will never be forgotten.

I'm not just saying this to the men out there .. but also to the women.. We all have a need to feel special, wanted, needed and loved .. so be sure the man or woman in your life knows it and feels it.

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-7-2007

~Endurance~
Do not identify yourself too much with problems in your environment. Even if you feel shaken and insecure, you can rely on your inner beingТs unwavering presence. This is not a time to give up. Use the obstacles in your path as an opportunity to grow in consciousness, instead of telling yourself they must be insurmountable. What matters is staying true to yourself now. Here is your chance to stand up for what you believe without compromises.

~Lovers~
To able to surrender completely, you must be at the height of your strength. Most people think only the weak surrender. But the opposite is true. You have to have the fortitude to let everything go and fall into LOVE itself, without expectations, without knowing whether the beloved will respond in kind or notЕ This can only happen with a vast and all-encompassing faith in love as such. Love is lifeТs most important gift. DonТt let it atrophy, even though it hurts too much sometimes. The fire of love is the eye of the needle through which every human being must pass sooner or later. Whoever misses the opportunity remains unfulfilled.

There are many kinds of loveЕ decide to stay faithful to the love within you and you shall see how love is returned. DonТt restrict yourself. Just allow your love and life force to flow.

~Self-Actualization~
Tune into your own rhythms. Trust the force that guides you. It wants to lift you to high heaven like the smoke rising from a bowl of healing herbs. The greater your faith in the great unknown, the more sure-footed your journey will be. Your path lies clearly before you.. just open your eyes and see.

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-8-2007

Raventalker has no wisdom today .. I am too tired, run down and give out to try and bring about wisdom today Е so today will be my day of rest ..

I leave you with a quote :

Crowfoot, Blackfoot warrior and orator
"What is life? It is the flash of a firefly in the night. It is the breath of a buffalo in the wintertime. It is the little shadow which runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset."

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-9-2007

~New Beginning~
ItТs time to start anewЕ let go of the past and look forward Е walk away from what has come and now gone and hold steady your path to tomorrow.

~Awakening~
The mystery is always in us and all around us, yet we ignore it. Preoccupied with thoughts, we sleep through most of our life and wonder why we are unhappyЕ we are like fishes in the sea and desperately ask everyone where to find water. Let yourself be accompanied now, inspired by the wisdom and compassion of your spirit guide.

~Insecurity~
DonТt be pulled once again into that old, negative mind-loop. Getting out of that loop requires your full attention. Think about why you tend to think of yourself so harshly. Look closely! Where does this destructive influence come from, and who needs it? Become more aware of the influence negative thoughts have, and how you allow yourself to be hypnotized by them.

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-10-2007

Todays bit of wisdom is :

Lakota Instructions for Living

Friend do it this way - that is,
whatever you do in life,
do the very best you can
with both your heart and mind.

And if you do it that way,
the Power Of The Universe
will come to your assistance,
if your heart and mind are in Unity.

When one sits in the Hoop Of The People,
one must be responsible because
All of Creation is related.
And the hurt of one is the hurt of all.
And the honor of one is the honor of all.
And whatever we do effects everything in the universe.

If you do it that way - that is,
if you truly join your heart and mind
as One - whatever you ask for,
that's the Way It's Going To Be.

passed down from White Buffalo Calf Woman

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-11-2007

Don't get your biscuits confused with your cookies... or else you'll be dunking the wrong thing in your tea!

(That's not a fucking biscuit!)

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-12-2007

~Romance~
The endless longing of the soul to be immersed in the beauty of love ( and therefore life) over and over again. Longing for true intimacy, to be cherished in loving recognition. Allow yourself to be led by your deepest stirrings now.

If you are wanting to pour the full force of your love into a relationship, to be swept off your feet, to dissolve completely in loveЕ Never let this longing be put down or ridiculed by anyone! Life is all about letting our love-force flow unabashedly and learning to trust its course. If you have no partner at this time, let nature be the one who allows you to feel the sweetness of dissolving into a divine union with the miracle of life itself.

~Fulfillment~
If you can stay open now, you will be given so much that you have no choice but to rejoice. We are less familiar with bliss than with suffering and sometimes we have to learn how to bear a sudden influx of tremendously fulfilling energy.

Clinging to people and objects as we have been taught, turns even kings and queens into beggars. Discard all feelings and ideas of lack and enjoy.. Let go and flow with lifeТs energy.

~Joy~
Fully enjoy what comes to you. Moreover, be grateful for what you already have. The joy of being alive spreads itself in ever widening circles. No pushing is needed on your part. Let what is arising inside you take form. Genuine joy constantly breeds more joy, infecting all those you touch. So keep the inner channels open and donТt block them again with memories of your dead past!

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-13-2007

~Mental Strength~
Trust your perceptiveness! You know better than anyone what is right for you and whatТs not. Focus your mental powers on a merger with your heart. Then your intellect will give your heart two evenly balanced wings.

~Self-Liberation~
A profound longing for your own inner truth demands your undivided attention. Find yourself and allow yourself to be set free.

~Excess~
To find your own truth and get back on track, you have to stop playing games of self-deception. Whatever you refuse to see or acknowledge inside you, manifests in your environment with undeniable force. Take responsibility for the situation you have created for yourself. When you are wiling to do that, a solution will emerge a lot sooner!

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-14-2007

TodayТs wisdom comes from a passage in a book called УDance of PowerФ by Dr. Susan Gregg

УYou have come here to remember that you are love and the only thing that is real is love. Everything else is an illusion. This physical world is so beautiful and sensual that it is easy to lose your way.Ф
УThe seasons come and go and we mourn the loss of our youth. We begin to believe that we are a body. We forget our divinity. We wander through life unfulfilled and empty. We try to fill that emptiness with the pleasures of this world and forget our way home. We lose sight of the truth and begin to believe only the illusion. We forget we are one with the Great Spirit. We forget how precious each person is; we actually hurt one another.Ф

УWe have forgotten that our real strength lies in our gentleness. Who has ever won a war? Everyone loses unless they are coming from the realm of love. Only love is real.Ф

УLearn to listen to your heart, learn to walk and live in love. Let love be the answer to all your questions. Never listen to the voice of judgement or anger. Listen only to the gentle whispering of love.Ф

УListen to your heartТs guidance and you will always be in the right place to gain knowledge.Ф

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-15-2007

~Meditation~
DonТt fight your need for quietness. Those who truly love you will understand and grant you the space you require to take this time for yourself.. to turn inward for a time. Genuine answers to your questions arise from this inner resting place, all by themselves. So give your mind a break and listen to your inner beingness.

~Caring~
It is essential that you tune into your body right now and listen to what it needs. By taking better care of yourself, you strengthen your entire network of connections and relations. Begin by being very kind to yourself, then the circle of giving and taking will at last become complete. Taking care of others takes a lot of strength. Therefore, it is essential to maintain a healthy balance. Nobody is ever better off when you collapse just because you canТt stop helping everyone in need. Your task now is to find a resting point within yourself. Even though infinite power resides within you, a human body can go only so far. Kindly respect its natural limits, then you will have all the strength in the world at your disposal.

~Change~
Once you are in harmony with yourself, lifeТs constant changes are experienced as perfection in action. Then what is old naturally gives way to the new, and without unnecessary struggle. Worries about your material security diminish as well.

Both success and failure are great teachers. Do not identify too strongly to either. Once you see through the game you are free from it.

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-16-2007

~Evolution~
The light of the sun keeps us alive. Its warmth allows us to exist on this planet. No wonder our УprimitiveФ ancestors prayed to it as to a god or goddess. To them, the sun most vividly represented the presence of an immesurable and eternal divine power.

Solar power makes you enter a new stage in life now, a phase of happiness, fulfillment and gratitude. Your inner sun is rising! Its radiance illuminates your path. You no longer need help from outside when you learn to trust your inner Sun. ThatТs what all our striving is all about: to find our own, unique way; to live our own realization, to follow our own inner light. The sun is a sign to say that you are very close to this.

~Endurance~
Do not identify yourself too much with problems in your environment. Even if you feel shaken and insecure, you can rely on your inner beingТs unwavering presence. This is not a time to give up. Use the obstacles in your path as an opportunity to grow in consciousness, instead of telling yourself they must be insurmountable. What matters is staying true to yourself now. Here is your chance to stand up for what you believe without compromises.

~Hurt~
You are responsible for what you make of your life. No childhood pain, however severe, can still be used as an excuse not to be kind and forgiving today! Investigate the source of your real guilt feelings. Your work and your relationships can blossom only if you accept yourself exactly as you ARE right now.

Allow yourself to heal old woundsЕ DonТt cling to something that you know is detrimental to you. DonТt keep hurting yourself in this way. Watch the thoughts you use to torment your own being. Remember the answers you alone carry within.

~TodayТs New Moon Е. Or shall I say TONIGHT~
Tonight is the night of the new moon Е and for those of you who have read my blogs on a regular basis you know what this means .. NEW BEGINNINGS!!!

Now is the time to rid your life of all the so not needed crap and open your life to new beginnings .. new possibilities Е new life .. new new new freshness in your life..

Just like your home .. you need to think of your inner self as the home you carry around with you at all times.. it needs to be cleaned out on a regular basis.. or it gets all cluttered up and before you know it you are depressed and overwhelmed with all the trash and clutter you wonТt even know where to begin cleaning it out ..

So take the needed steps to clear away the clutter so that you can enjoy the new, fresh, clean surroundings.. Throw out all the stuff and crap that is not needed and that is not productive or helpful to you and make room to finally breathe from within ..
Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-17-2007
Today's Wisdom comes from some quotes I have found ............... enjoy!

"Sometimes dreams are wiser than waking."
"The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they realize their relationship, their oneness with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize that at the center of the universe dwells the Great Spirit, and that this center is really everywhere, it is within each of us."

Black Elk - Oglala Sioux
The growing and dying of the moon reminds us of our ignorance which comes and goes- but when the moon is full it is as if the Great Spirit were upon the whole world.
-Black Elk, Oglala Sioux
"May you always walk in Beauty."
Black Elk: Holy Man of the Oglala Sioux

"How smooth must be the language of the whites, when they can make right look like wrong, and wrong like right."
-Black Hawk, Sauk-(1767-1838)Ma-ka-tai-me-she-kia-kiak

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-18-2007

Today's wisdom is about Power ... and Choices.........

So many of us give our power away without even knowing it ... and in doing so gets us in so many tough spots and takes us through a whirlwind of chaos..

When you allow thoughts to come into mind and then allow them to control your actions .. you are giving away your power.. you give it away to thought.. and negative thoughts at that ..

These negative thoughts then consume all your mind and your life for however long you allow .. slowly you find yourself in a depression.. a funk and it's hard to see your way out of it .. and sometimes even you'll do damaging things to yoursefl while in that sate .. ok well most often .. not just sometimes..

Those damaging actions come in many forms.. it just depends on the person and how badly and how deeply in the depression they are .. some cut themselves or cause physical pain in others ways... some make really horrible choices that they know are wrong for them .. but they do it anyway ... and some take it out on others and cause pain to those around them .. to strangers.. co-workers.. family.. friends and even their most loved ones..

You have to realize that what you are doing .. you have to see that you are giving your power over to something as silly as a thought .. because thats what it is really all about .. what else is it that makes us feel so bad .. it's thoughts .. formed in our own minds... Are you really going to allow a thought to control you ... take over your life and maybe even destroy you?

The key is not giving any power to these thoughts ... allow only the postive..productive thoughts in and get rid of those negative ones as they filter through ... Tell those thoughts to F*ck Off! They do not belong there .. they are not welcome there and you don't need them or want them... !

If it makes you feel bad .. you don't need it! It's as simple as that!

We must take back our own power and build the life that we truly want .. don't give your power away to useless thoughts or to people who would abuse it ..

The one thing we all want in this life is to be happy .. Well how will those negative thoughts or actions bring us happiness? They won't!

So instead of trying to fight the thoughts .. just simple send them away .. you don't need them and you certainly don't need to fight them .. because look at it this way .. who exactly are you fighting with when you are fighting against these negative thoughts ? You are fighting with YOURSELF! LOL... not to make light of it and certainly not to make fun of anyone .. but I'm hoping you'll see the humor in it .. the picture of you fighting with your own self..

The thoughts come from YOU .. your own mind .. sure something or someone outside yourself may have played part to them being formed .. but YOU in the end, allowed them to really form and then take residence in your mind ..

So stop it! Take back your own power and just tell all the negative crap to F*ck Off!

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-19-2007

Why don't I?

Why don't I deserve better?

Why don't I feel like I deserve more?

Why don't I deserve a partner who will not lie to me?

Why don't I deserve a partner who's word always stands true?
Why don't I deserve a partner who is faithful and true?
Why don't I deserve a partner who knows right from wrong?
Why don't I deserve a partner that will not abuse me in any way?

Why don't I deserve a partner who loves me in every way ?
Why don't I deserve a partner who wants to make me smile?
Why don't I deserve a partner who would go out of his way so that I not shed a tear?
Why don't I deserve a partner who is as good as I .. or better?

Why don't I deserve a partner to laugh with and play?

Am I silly to think that I might deserve such things? Do I ask too much?

I live my life each and every day trying to always be my best .. always looking at life and trying to learn the many lessons she brings.. I go out of my way so not to cause anyone hurt or pain Е I sacrifice my own happiness and pleasures to please others .. and yet time and time again I find myself with a partner and yet the tears still flowЕ the sorrow and sadness fill my heart and I am left incompleteЕ I am left with a void.. a giant whole inside myself .. for the partners I have been with have not been the one.. the one who doesn't wish me harm.. the one who loves me completely as I love themЕ the one who is always there and who understands me better than I understand myself.. the one who doesn't cause the tears to flow down my cheeks.. the one who instead of tears of sadness causes tears of happiness and joy!

I have to stop and ask myself .. why?

Well if we do not see ourselves worthy Е if we feel for whatever reason it is that we don't deserve better .. then we get what we think or feel we deserve which is less than what we really truly wish to have ..

Just as the saying goes "You get what you ask for"

"You also get what you settle for"

At the end of the day .. we have to really look at our lives and what we have come to be and know.. have we settled Е have we sacrificed for the right reasons?

I'm sure many of you will agree.. and many of you will look around and nod your head and say yeah .. I see where I have "settled" and that may be in many areas .. work, friends, lovers, etcЕ

Now the question is how do we get what we want and how do we learn how not to settle.. well I guess we have to first live our lives well.. always be the best we can beЕ not saying you have to be perfect and certainly not saying that once we make a mistake we have to expect less.. because that's just it .. that's how we have ended up settling somewhere in our lives.. because we have all made mistakes.. we see these mistakes as points taken off of what we deserveЕ it's human nature to make mistakes.. that's why we are here .. for without the mistakes no lessons would be learned Е without the hard times we could not appreciate the goodЕ without sorrow we could not know happiness..

Once we have decided to be our personal best Е and we continue to live in that manner .. we have to let ourselves know that we DO deserve better .. we DO deserve to be happy .. .and then we have to allow the better into our lives.. we have to allow ourselves to be happy ..

We must stop our own self destructive behavior ..

We have to stop feeling unworthy .. we have to embrace our own goodness ..

We have to truly believe we DO deserve the happiness and it will come all on it's own !

Now go .. go out into the world and be happy .. allow that feeling to fill your being and DO NOT allow yourself to feel guilt from being happy .. just be happy Е and embrace the joy of living a good life!

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-20-2007

~Fertility~
The source of life is so juicy, it fertilizes everything. Since you are no longer intent on being paralyzed by fears of separation, you are ready to get in touch with the lifespring inside you. Simply fall into the inner juicyness that wells up on itТs own accord, as you will notice from now on. Allow all feelings to arise and dissolve. No judging them! Feel them completely, without struggling to avoid or cling to them. Then there will be harmony within and without.

To admit your true feelings is to permit the exchange of the love that everyone longs for.

~New Beginning~
ItТs time to start anewЕ let go of the past and look forward Е walk away from what has come and now gone and hold steady your path to tomorrow.

~Inner Peace~
You are ready to find peace by diving into the silence inside you. This very moment reveals that the inner silence never leaves you. Even though your external being changes and renews itself constantly, the silent space of inner peace remains unaffected. You just have to remember this space, and it opens up for you.

Take this time to put a difficult situation behind you. Seize this opportunity! Prolonging conflict will NOT help or solve the conflict. Be sure to go for a loving settlement. Your new-found inner harmony causes outer circumstances to find their own way of settling Ц much more peacefully and beautifully than you could have contrived.

~Easy Words~
Words are easy Е it is the action that follows that gets you..
The other day I was having a talk with a friend who found himself in a very deep depression to the point of wanting to cut at himselfЕ. Now I know he didnТt want to kill himself or he would have done so .. he just wanted to cause some outside to pain to relieve the inner pain .. but still as I was having a talk with him about how he has to let go of all the harmful thoughts consuming his mind and how he had to find a point where he was able to actually love himself .. .. I realized that so much of the pain IТve been through myself has been basically because I have not followed the words I give to others Е it is so easy for me to help others with soothing words and thoughts as well as actions.. but what about for myself.. every single day I work at healing all my lifetime wounds and I work at being a better person .. but in all that have I allowed myself to be loved completely by MEЕ. Hmmmmmmmmm

In that moment where I realized here I was again handing out words for someone else to follow so that they might be able to heal and grow .. I wasnТt doing the same for myself.. and in my life I have known many who talk the talk but yet do not walk the walk .. and that was not the kind of person I was meaning to be .. I do try and work on my own faults, wounds and issues but I did realize that I had not completely been following my words .. the words I so often lend to others .. I want to be a person that can lead by example.. I donТt want to be remembered as just one of those who go around handing out advice and then not living by that same Е. How can I expect someone else to do what I have not even done.. so now I watch more closely to my own actions.. my own self destructive behavior .. and I follow my own words of wisdom .. lol.. for I do not wish to ask anyone to try something I have not tried myself..

so here goesЕ

I AM WORTHY Е.
I AM A GOOD PERSON Е
I DESERVE TO BE LOVEDЕ
I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY ..

WHEW.. Oh dear Е those arenТt just words.. those are feelings and when one isnТt use to feeling them .. man are they hard to get use to ..lol..

Good luck to everyone and may today and every day be a productive, healthy .. wonderful and amazing day!

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-21-2007

I'm betting you guys thought I forgot all about the wisdom today...lol.. well nope.. I didn't forget .. it's just been one of those really busy days...

So what should I speak about today???

How about not pushing yourself too thin and not stressing over the little things ..

A friend once told me there were two things I should never worry about ..

1.) The things I can't change
2.) The things I can change

All day long I knew I needed to write some words of wisdom out but I kept getting distracted with .. well... work...lol..

I worried about it for a bit and then suddenly I let it go... when I was worried about it I couldn't come up with any wisdom ... and once I let go .. out it came.. it flowed naturally right from my fingertips...

You see worry stopped my natural flow and caused a road block .. letting go of the worry was like opening the flood gates and the energy and the wisdom began to flow at a natural and very unpainful pace..

I had so much to do today and the more I kept thing of my endless list the more stressed I got and the more I tried pushing to get it all done.. but I found that the more I did that the less I actually got done..

I had my list and instead of stressing over every item all at once I let go and tackled one at a time and suddenly it was gone.. my list was down to getting my wisdom out and heading for bed...

So ... So my words for you this night would be ..

Let go .. stop stressing and be careful not to push yourself too thin ... if something on your list of "to do" doesn't get done when you expect it done.. change your expectations..

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-22-2007

Our life lessonsЕ.

Our lives are full of so many lessons.. afterall thatТs whey we are here .. right? To grow and learnЕ to become the very best as we can Е and without lessons how do we learn.. if life were always so perfect and there were no lessons .. how would we ever grow?

The old saying what does not kill us makes us stronger .. that is so true.. just think about it ..

As each life lesson comes along we gain strength as we go through it .. we gain wisdom .. and wisdom is a great strength.. the greatest there is

We learn what not to doЕ we learn about ourselves.. we learn about othersЕ we learn about sooooooo many many things .. and the key here is to see the lessons before you .. hold on to them and retain them.. because if you forget your lesson .. guess what Е lol.. yep you guessed it Е it comes right back around to say .. УHey! Remember me?Ф

So as I write this I sit and think about some of my life lessons that I have been given and wondering what all I might have learned Е

Some of the things I have learned Е.

I have learned to trust my intuition.. looking back it has always been right

I have learned that the greatest love is love of self.. for without it you really canТt have or at least appreciate any other type of love.. this has been my hardest lesson .. learning to love myself completely .. I like who I am on the inside Е but also I need to learn to love myself on the outside .. I am in no way the perfect model of a body .. oh dear it frightens me to even look in a mirror.. but I have to accept what this life has given me and be grateful that I am here .. I can walk .. I can run I can talk and speak and hear and see.. so whats wrong .. I donТt have the model thin perfect bodyЕ well all the stretch marks from the wonderful children I have I guess I should be seeing those as a badge of honor Е there are so many that canТt have children .. I am one of the lucky ones.. I have 3 gorgeous children .. the scar that runs up my left hip.. also another gift .. it shows that IТm a survivor.. many years ago I was in a very terrible car accident and it crushed my left leg.. I am lucky to have survived and certainly lucky I can walk Е instead of always worrying about the newer .. shiner models coming out and worried that IТll be over looked or parked in the garage for the pretty, shiny and new version Е I should look at myself as the Model-T .. that original make that even after all these years and all the miles Е all the road dust .. you canТt help but turn your head and look as it goes by Е there is just something special about it .. maybe itТs knowing that it holds so many secrets within itТs shell of the years and the many miles itТs traveled that turns our heads Е maybe itТs the fact that itТs still going .. maybe itТs the uniqueness of it Е who knows.. I just need to look at myself with love .. inside and out and be the best I can Е and if I am careful and I take good care of myself .. again .. inside and out .. then others will come along and see that beauty as well.. and if they donТt .. at least I know I have taken care of meЕ and done what I could for meЕ.

well I will stop rambling and speak on some of those other life lessons another time..

Live well, live happy .. and live with love..

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-23-2003

~Great Expectations~

The thing is with Great Expectations.. Great Disappoint might also followЕ.

The best things in life come naturally Е without all the expectationsЕ

When something is expected .. so often the disappoint will follow because simply of our expectations being set far too high Е

Let things happen naturally .. let go of all your expectations and disappoint will not be allowed to followЕ

The great moments in life are always the ones unplanned .. unexpectedЕ

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-24/25-2007

Sorry it's late ... I didn't quite forget about the wisdom today but it was a busy day for me.. and I just never got the time to get any wisdom out and besides that I had to peeeeeeeeeee.....

Then when I was having a chat later on... all hell broke lose and things got messy .. which left us all cracked up ... and in tears

Then order 1...4....5 was called and I had to have my snack ... the Earth then moved... my breath was taken away and I couldn't speak ....

all in all I'd say a pretty damn good day ..

so you might ask... What's the wisdom in all these ramblings??????

Sometimes you just need to let things be and not stress so much over what didn't get done and enjoy what did. Live life to it's fullest .. always have a bit of fun and laugh and love as much as you can!

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-27-2007

~The New Dimension~
In the center of the Big Medicine Wheel, planet earth is seen spinning, crowned by the snake that symbolizes the mystical power of creation to constantly transmute and re-invent itself by taking countless forms. The mountain lion is known as a sign of spiritual guidance, physical prowess and the ability to follow one's heart. The white buffalo is most special, it is revered as a sign of answered prayers, renewal and grace. The eagle always symbolizes Great Spirit. Its feathers are sacred and have been used by medicine folk since time immemorable during healing ceremonies, to gaze into realms beyond mundane life, expand one's horizon and establish a connection with the unseen world. The human animal is just one part of the endlessly circular motion of Big Medicine Wheel. He is not positioned above nature or any other creature. It behooves man to remember his place in the great Medicine Wheel.

~Change~
Once you are in harmony with yourself, life's constant changes are experienced as perfection in action. Then what is old naturally gives way to the new, and without unnecessary struggle. Worries about your material security diminish as well. If you don't willfully interfere, the acceptance of changes becomes effortless and thrilling.

~Sensitivity~
Follow your intuitive insightfulness! Heed its subtle intimations, even if you can't put them into words. Direct insights happen without words. It is a mistake to believe that only what is expressible can really be true. The truth exists beyond all expressions. Trust your most delicate feelings.. .they speak to you more clearly than any words.

Daily Wisdom by Raventalker 2-28-2007

~Integrity~
If you let the innocence of your heart come to the forefront, most worries simply fall away. Once you accept yourself just the way you are, competitiveness and envy cease to dominate. Your path to freedom is found in the clarity and simplicity of your heart.

The most important things in life arrive on their own accord, not because you earned them! Let your heart lead you to the people and circumstances you need to continue growing gently and easily.

~Intuition~
Intuitive powers can affect your life only when you give them enough room to unfold. You must recognize and let go of negative thought patterns.. .only then will it be possible to drink from eth well of intuitive wisdom. To be healed internally, love needs to be found within. Your path is to follow your intuition.

~Freedom~
Allow yourself to live your own truthЕ express who and what you really are .. drop any and all masks .. they are not needed.. just be yourself and live that truth that is you. Enjoy all that comes along, without hankering that tomorrow might bring you bigger and better. Re-discover that playful creative element inside yourself. You donТt need to possess what makes your heart sing! Return to the childlike delight of experiencing without holding, the tasting that knows no clinging.